The Sex Talk

A Muslim’s Guide to the First Time

Coming Summer/Fall 2017!

TheSexTalk2Our exciting crowdsourced project #TheFirstTime, a platform to anonymously ask your most pressing questions about sex:

For the last five years, HEART has been creating safe spaces, free of blame and shame, for women and girls to speak openly and learn about sexual health and connect them to the resources they need to feel empowered. All too often, we have heard stories of women struggling with intimacy, and with questions about contraception, medical conditions, and relationships but with no space to seek answers.

We’re here to change that. Sexuality is a normal and healthy part of life, and no one should feel like they have to guess their way through life: there are resources to help, and we want to provide you with ways to access such information in a way that is safe, and free of blame and shame.

And so, we are thrilled to partner with Love, Inshallah on an exciting projected called The Sex Talk: A Muslim’s Guide to the First Time, which you can read more about below and on their blog announcing this project.


When we started three years ago, we were inundated with questions from our readers about love, sex, and relationships – issues covered in our book, Love, InshAllah: The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women. We realized that, for many of us, there isn’t a safe space to voice our most intimate concerns without fear of shame, humiliation, or judgment.

Recognizing that we all have questions – but not all of us have someone to turn to for answers – we launched an advice column. We enlisted the help of two thoughtful and wise friends – Miss Sunshine and Shy Desi Boy – who, over the years, have answered our readers’ burning questions about love and sex and everything in between.

Two years ago, our columnists answered a question from a young man who was “Clueless About [His] Wedding Night.” He wrote that he was at a loss as to what he should do once he and his wife were alone, but had no one he could turn to for advice. Our columnists answered his question with grace and honesty.

Since then, “Clueless About My Wedding Night” has become the single most viewed post It’s clear from the way in which this column has gone viral that there are many others out there who are also looking for answers about having sex for the first time.

We want to help.

Today marks the launch of our newest project, #TheFirstTime, an attempt to make sure you’re not clueless on your wedding night. We want to know: what questions do you have (or did you have) about having sex for the first time? What advice would you give your best friend on his/her wedding night? And, what resources do you wish you had before you had sex for the first time?

This is a project based on a crowd-sourced, anonymous survey.

We are excited to partner with HEART Women & Girls, a non-profit organization that seeks to promote the reproductive health and mental well-being of faith-based communities.

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